David and I have been engaged for a month and half and still have no idea what we are doing for our wedding. I know we have time to figure it out, but since we are both in our 30’s and want kids someday, I feel pressure to get things moving and at least figure out a venue and a date.
Neither David or I have any close ties to our state of Georgia. I grew up in California and he grew up in the Northeast. We just moved here for work and we don’t really want to get married here. Additionally, the majority of our wedding guests are from out of town and would have to travel regardless of where we chose to have a wedding, so we figured why not have it somewhere else? The one thing we both agree on is that we want a destination wedding in the mountains.
Our next issue is when to have the wedding. I really don’t want to wait over a year to get married. We have been together for 4 years and have lived together for 2 1/2 of those years. We don’t need a long engagement to ease into things. I’ve also always wanted a fall or winter wedding. Unfortunately, neither of us think we could get everything planned and give our guests enough travel notice to pull off a fall wedding, so now we are looking at winter or early spring.
Obviously a winter destination wedding in the mountains carries a whole host of problems. The biggest one is that we don’t want anyone to be uncomfortable in the cold weather. Also, winter conditions can close roads and make getting to the wedding destination impossible. Even if we push it to early spring, we are faced with the same risks, but to a slightly lesser degree. The upside however, is that winter is the off season for many destinations, so we could save money on the wedding and our guests could save money on accommodations. Winter is also beautiful and would make a stunning backdrop for a wedding.
To try and lessen the risk of uncomfortably cold temperatures and winter road closures, we are leaning towards a March wedding date, but we still don’t have a venue. Additionally, I am seriously concerned that even though 95% of our guests would have to travel regardless of where we have the wedding, that the extra travel involved in a destination wedding may mean nobody shows up. Atlanta is easier for our east coast friends and family to get to than a west coast destination (our preferred region) is. Not to mention, our families have strong and conflicting opinions on what we “should” do for a wedding. They want traditional, we want anything but traditional. Needless to say, much of the fun and excitement has been sucked out of the planning process, but I think once we find the right venue and pick a date, I’ll feel a lot better.